The Way The Unchurched Percieve The Church: A Story About a Friend's Unchurched Friend

So today I went to a my son Ian's soccer game and some friends from our small group came out to cheer him on. [We have a great small group that does life together--very biblical but that's another post.] Anyway, we went to McDonald's for our kids to play in the playland. While we were eating and watching the kids, my friend Chris began to relate to me an experience he he had with one of his unchurched friends.

He began the story by sharing how he was helping this friend, we will call him A. J. pull and winterize some boats from the area lakes. As they were driving from job to job AJ began to tell him a story about church people.

As it goes AJ rented some space for his business from a "Christian". This space was in a shop where this Christian businessman worked and AJ rented a certain # of square feet in this shop. As the story goes AJ never received the full number of square feet. Many times AJ would clean the section he was supposed to have and remove equipment and materials this businessman owned that were not suppose to be in his area. Every time he moved this material--it would end up back in his space the very next day. Eventually AJ decided he would only pay have the rent--since he wasn't receiving the full space. This business man cursed him out and yelled at him at the top of his lungs.

AJ commented that it is a shame that Christians--this business man--can live one way at the shop, but at church be a totally different person. He recounted how he had visited this man's church to see him in a suit and tie acting totally different. He then lamented at the fact that Christians think they can go to church and be one way so they can live the rest of their life another way. He also lamented at the fact that he had made some mistakes in his life (had a child out of wedlock) but that nobody AT CHURCH would accept him or give him a chance--even though for the past few years he had been turning his life around.

He then talked about a small group he had attended that wasn't like that. He said looking back--this was his church and this is they way he wished the church would be.

If the church would only realize that non-Christians perceive the institutional church a certain way and that the perceptions they work hard to keep people from having (having "bad" people in the church--one might say "real" people) actually contribute to the negative perception the unchurched have.

When will we learn that we need to be real and authentic. I don't know how many times I have been told that I need to wear a Jacket and Tie because that is what respectable pastor wear. That isn't me, and for me to do this would contribute to the negative perceptions that many of the unchurched have.